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The 3 Soulmates That Will Change Your Life

Have you met a person whose presence stops time and whose existence changes your life? Whenever you feel a strong connection to someone else, they are almost guaranteed to be one of your soulmates. Through all of the soulmate meetings, you may find lessons that repeat themselves. There is a philosophical belief that you can only fall in love with three people in this lifetime. Some of these three have many different faces. When you analyze the romantic involvements you have had in this life, you will see why this belief resonates deeply with many.

Each soulmate is different, and yes, there are many. You may have spent many lifetimes together and have a contract with each other to achieve something important in this life. This can be a mutual mission, a friendship, a romantic relationship, or karma that is meant to be cleared.

At the same time, many of these encounters can seem eerily similar. You may think ‘I have learned this lesson before!’ but yet it seems to be present once again. There is a pattern and a meaning to repeating cycles and paying attention to one when it arises can be very beneficial to clearing the reason it’s in your life once again.

Some say that in this life you can only fall in love three times. All other loves, if you experience many over your lifetime, are repetitions of these primary three. It is entirely possible that you will meet one person who will evolve and become all three of these loves for you as you progress through your relationship. Sometimes they are personified by different people. There is no right or wrong, but there is a design to these soul meetings. Together with your soulmates you will grow and evolve into your truest self. The way this happens differs in each of the three types of love that you can experience.

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The First Soulmate: The Idealistic Love

The first love you experience is usually in childhood or school years. As a child, you’ve already been exposed to various fairytales, and the vivid childhood imagination weaves a tale out of this young love in a way that looks very much like one.

You view love as idealistic and hang on to it often without reason. Somewhere along the way this relationship or connection may start to feel wrong, yet you refuse to give up. You believe that this person is the one. You keep waiting for that fairytale ending despite all odds. Looking back on it, this love may seem naïve. Yet, it is important to experience it.

This first love starts to break down what you thought you believed about love and find out what it actually means for us personally. The lesson of this love is to begin growing as a person, to start breaking the labels that have been placed on you by society.

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The Second Soulmate: The Tough Love

Soulmates of the second varriety often teach us the largest number of lessons. This often comes in the form of many people. Some have a similar face, others are completely different, yet the lessons repeat themselves almost identically. If you are in a relationship that is carrying the lessons of all three soulmates in one, you may find your lover begin challenging you on a regular basis for various reasons.

The second love can be called the most important one of all because it brings the most growth. This is often considered the tough love. Oftentimes, you may be repeating some of the patterns from the first love, even though you do not consciously realize it. You may stubbornly try to make it work for the sake of it working out—not because it should work. Just remember, there is a lot of work involved with this love. And it is work you are required to attend to if you want to grow as a person.

Through the challenges, drama, pain, and tears of this second love, you figure out the most important questions of your life.

  • Who am I?
  • What do I want my life to be like?
  • How do I want to love and be loved?

Without the assistance of this soulmate in your life, oftentimes the ego refuses to learn these lessons because it is still stuck in old paradigms—broken love your parents or relatives had, or errant sociocultural beliefs. This is sometimes why the second love is often split between different people until you become who you are meant to be. It is only then that you experience the third and final love of your life.

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The Third Soulmate: The Unexpected Love

Your third and final love—some call it the true love—is the one that comes the most unexpectedly. It does not follow the rules you thought you learned. It is not the one you anticipated. Yet, it absolutely and perfectly works.

It is also rarely with the person you expect, but when you join together, everything just clicks. It is easy, effortless, fun, and magical. This soulmate teaches you what it means to truly and unconditionally love and be loved.

At this point in your life you know exactly who you are and the life you want to build. This soulmate complements you perfectly, and there is zero doubt in your mind that you want to share your life with them.

And remember, whichever love you are experiencing right now—or already have in the past—it is exactly the one you need. Enjoy the ride and the fruits of each unique experience.


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Katalina Aster

Katalina is a writer, community builder, and changemaker. Her journalism background, coupled with a passion for creating global change, allows her to write articles on a variety of cutting edge topics related to health, spirituality, higher consciousness, and human connection. Since childhood, a sequence of events and new beliefs all came together to open a new path for her. This led her to learning about astrology, crystal healing, metaphysics, numerology, Tarot readings and new age philosophies. Using these philosophies and knowledge, Katalina hopes to inspire others to find their way to happiness, loving conscious relationships, and feeling more connected to the universe.

6 Responses

  1. Darkerblu says:

    But what if you are only your partners 1st or second love?

    • Liam Heartman says:

      From the Author:

      “Hello, thank you for your question! I assume you are asking what happens if your partner is your third, but you are their first or second. From my personal understanding, the final love, the third true love, can only happen if both people are on that level. At the same time, one person can be all three with time and progress. So if you feel like you are on a third level, and they are not, there are two possible explanations. It is either your partner’s Higher Self knows that you are their one and only, and the partner will grow to the third level. In this case, the signs you are looking for are growth! Each time they get triggered, do they let go of the trigger while learning the lesson of patience, love, or understanding, or do the same fights happen over and over? If there is no growth, perhaps they are not your third, and you do not know it yet. There is a lot a human mind cannot grasp, and the ability to love and connect even more is one of them. There is always a higher level of relationships, no matter how great and happy the one you are in is. However, there is also freewill involved in any situation. If you have a partner who you want to be your final love, tell them that in a way that they can understand and see if they are willing to grow and meet you there on that final, beautiful third level.” – Katalina Aster

  2. Is* says:

    Thank You, I really appreciate this article on a personal level. My first love and the ‘true’ love I’ve ever had was when I was 18. He was and still is the most handsome person I know. Everytime I talk to him I become numb to all else. Sometimes he makes me so excited I start to do things out of character, like try and show off in front of him without me knowing or try holding his hand out in public even thou I despise public affections. Unfortunately at the end of the day he is still human. he cheated on me and lied to me and caused me a lot of tears. he’s bring me down and belittle me, made racist remarks towards me. for some reason these things made me love him more I don’t know how this is possible and I don’t know if anyone will believe me but I loved him so much more because he treated me this way. eventually I left him. I was nearly 19 and at this time I was struggling to find a place to live as I had given up my old way of life, education, home to be with this guy. I did escorting for a few months and finally met a guy. he saw how fragile I was and how broken I was so he took me in as his partner and I have been with him ever since. I don’t want to sound selfish but I do not love him or if I do I do not realize this. we have been together for 2 years and 5 months. this person is my second love. I want to know if it is possible to have the first guy I’ve loved be third love? please answer this question as I am desperately looking for answers. I really don’t know if I’m wasting my time still talking to him over the phone and texting him few times a week. I just want him to come back to me!

    • Liam Heartman says:

      From The Author:

      “Hello beautiful soul, thank you for sharing your personal story! From my research and personal experience the third love comes unexpectedly and it’s not commonly someone you would expect. As they say, you do not know what you do not know, and there so many amazing soulmates out there whose light your human mind cannot even comprehend or imagine yet. To answer your question, either first or second love can become the third love but only if both people choose it, and both have grown to that level and learned the lessons of the 2nd love (the hard love). The absolute best you can do is to work on yourself, love yourself, focus on why you are here in this world, and shine your light so bright that you will attract the right person, your third love, or make the right person awaken and grow to catch up with you. Lastly, if you are still feeling negative emotions of any kind, you are still in the 1st or 2nd love vibration. Again, that does not mean you cannot achieve the third love with the person in your current situation (if you both choose it), it just means that there is still work to be done on your side as well. We come here on Earth for growth and lessons, and when you let go of the past and be open to the future, you will transform so much, you won’t even recognize yourself. And it will be glorious, and the amazing love you truly deserve will find you! Stay strong, love yourself, you are worth it.” – Katalina Aster

  3. I went over this site and I think you have a lot of good information, saved to fav 🙂

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